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It often seems the more I try to describe what I'm seeking, the further I get from it because I don't think in terms of relationship "categories." It seems this should be so, so very simple. If I like you and you like me, isn't that good enough? But there are so many preconceptions.

It's not about "romantic" or "platonic." It's about being real with each other right from the start, whether about sex or anything else, just because that works best and because we care about one another. It's not about "long-term" or "short-term." People are going to stay together exactly as long as they wish, no more and no less, so let's just see what happens instead of trying to make it permanent or impermanent. It's not about dominance or submission. It's about each of us stepping out of our own ways and finding ways for all to get what we want/need without the need to control others (I like looking for "win-win" situations). It's not about "just" friends or "more than sexy swingers wants horny fucking amatuer sex" friends. It's about relating with each other based on our actual desires and needs, and not based on our positions on some silly hierarchical ladder. My friends are important to me, regardless of gender and whether or not there's a sexual aspect to the relationship. Period. There's no "just" or "more than" about it. I feel that friendship is a benefit in itself, whether or not sex is involved, so the usual phrases about "friends with benefits," "friends first," etc. are a bit redundant. They're really just euphemisms to avoid mentioning sex. Frankly, I think all communication is relating--and therefore a relationship--not only the communication that fits into some box, type, category, or whatever! Am I seeking a "serious" relationship? Well, that depends...If "serious" means exclusive, then no. However, if it means based on honesty, actually giving a damn about one another, respect, etc., then hell yes. Freedom and caring can be compatible, you know. :)

I'm into music (especially techno, jazz, international, and good old-fashioned rock and "alternative" from back when that meant something), sci-fi (not necessarily the standard TV fare--I will always be a book junkie), cats other animals (I used to be the main humanoid advocate for five cats), comparative philosophy (I'm a Gnostic Agnostic Panvitalist with very Zenarchist/anarchist leanings that occasionally cause me to fall over), language/linguistics (I used to know just enough Portuguese to get me in trouble, still know enough English to get me in big trouble, and enough Silence to know that words slice the world up into categories, but they don't always cut it for effective communication), hanging around with friends (I go for quality rather than quantity), culture (We live on a planet--not just in a country), traveling/exploring (indoors, outdoors, underdoors), geek stuff (yeah, yeah, I've "got root," but it's not got me, I promise), and lots of other things. I'm not by nature a serious person, but I do listen and mean what I say. My sense of humor is multi-colored and multi-tentacled.

I am neither the king, the prince, nor the knight in shining armor. I'm the rogue jester who got tired of the entire monarchy and left to lead a quiet life with some new experiences thrown in. I firmly believe there's actually a difference between chivalry and real respect, and I practice the latter rather than the former. There's no hidden agenda here, no hoops through which we must jump. I'll hold the door for you because I try to help people, and tell you the truth because honesty just makes things so much simpler, not because either is the "proper" next step in a pre-programmed courtship ritual. I would prefer the same honesty from others.

I am neither Mr. Right who would deny you another person who is also right for you simply because the other person is not me, nor Mr. Right-Now who expects you to sever your caring from your sexuality and become nothing but a receptacle. I'm a real, honest, affectionate, empathic, hybrid polyamorous and quirkyalone (able to love many and realize that people aren't property, and willing to stay single unless/until I connect deeply with someone(s)), generally mellow and sometimes quiet hippie-oid mutant seeking a female kindred spirit with whom to share a bit of life, laughter, and love that is about honesty and respect rather than jealousy. Let's share interests and see what happens!

I am not professional. My job is. I am a person, and not my job. There are aspects of my job that I find interesting, but I honestly have mixed feelings about the county government for which I work, and no real faith in government or authority in general. My view of ethics is really simple: We're all in this together, so anything I do for or to someone else is going to effect everyone, including me. Therefore, I might as well try to help people whenever I can and not screw the world up any more than it is, if I can help it. I frankly don't believe in money except as a big stupid shell game we're all forced to play to varying degrees.

All the multiple-choice "factory specification" stuff is utterly secondary to me. I don't care how much money your wallet makes, how tall/short your ruler is, how much your bathroom scale weighs, whether your television looks like a supermodel, where your resume works, when your birth certificate was born, or whether your degrees finished college (The entire Earth can be your school, and I respect wisdom more than credentials). I do care that you be a real, caring, affectionate, creative, self-aware, evolving, and self-accepting person who dares to live, love, and feel as you will without having to step on others. If you often feel like a color without a name, you're curious about the world around you, you think/feel deeply, your path veers off the main stream by conscious choice, and you can love without jealousy, we'll probably have quite a lot to start with. Appearance-wise, I find I'm most attracted to women who just look like their natural selves and don't wear makeup or shave.

As for my own "factory specifications," I'm lbs (in normal earth gravity), 5'6", with 2 arms, 2 legs, and 1 head containing long brown/gray hair, 2 hazel eyes (semi-functional), 1 goatee/mustache ensemble, and 1 brain (usually at least mostly functional). I physiy cannot drive, so I use public transportation and my legs.

I'm 420-friendly. I don't smoke cigarettes (though I'm not militant about it if others do). I'd better mention that traditional authoritarian religion and I do not mix well at all. However, I am drawn to some forms of conscious paganism and gnosticism, as well as good old stuffy atheism and rationalism. So...I don't make a particularly good anything-ist in this department. Like Socrates, I question every damned thing, even myself. I hope that if you are in an existing marriage or other commitment, it is either truly open or you have an exit strategy. While I don't believe in marriage for myself, I am not here to break anyone's heart.

If you resonate with most of what I've said here and you don't find yourself screaming "Noooo, not THAT!," let's talk! :)

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Looking for an intelligent and fun girl for a LTR I want someone who can grow and inspire me to grow while we have fun and live life. I'm looking for a long term relationship with a friend who I can hopefully someday share my life with. I don't necessarily believe in soul mates, but I believe a person compatible with me is out there somewhere.
I like to keep pretty active, though I'm not off the walls or anything. I'm really into outdoors activities such as hiking or camping. It's always neat to find graffiti that people have been working on for years in an isolated area. I also like the change of pace from city life for a few days every now and then. I also like "fending for myself" (if by fending for myself I mean roasting some bacon over a campfire that I bought at the local Wal-Mart. . . it still counts!). I'm not a big sports fan, but would go to a sports game or play some sports if the person I was with was deeply interested. I like shopping (weird, right?) and generally exploring different towns and their shops. You never really know what you'll find. I am completely into fairs and festivals, and they keep me outside during the summer months. I'll sometimes go to the movies if something good is coming out, though it's a rare site for a good movie to be released anymore (The film producers finally realized that people will pay millions to see a , Brave New World. Or even Ishmael.
Physiy, I would myself good-looking. I'm not an uber-hunk or anything like that in my mind, but I'm healthy and fit. I'm 6'2'' tall, so I don't tend to tower over people but I'm not short. I am white with blond hair/blue eyes. I keep myself groomed and my face shaven (strange to say, but there are a lot of people who don't) My ancestry is partially German/Russian/a whole lot of other European nationalities. I tend to dress in a fancy casual way. Nothing too fancy, but I like to wear clothes that fit and look good on me.
I have gone to college, though my time there is not complete. I'm taking a break for a quarter or two. I'm currently going for an engineering degree, which is so super exciting I don't know what else to say about it (the sarcasm). Jobs in the field are expanding, the hours aren't terrible, and the pay is great so I made an educated choice on that one. I am currently working and I don't know about the field but the hours are alright and the pay is pretty meh. I own my own car and love it to death (you'll see why if you meet me). I'm not a car fanatic though, so don't be afraid; I honestly know very little about cars. I have a plan and am ambition, though be it pretty general at the moment. Still, it's a better spot than where I was at a year ago.
I'm not very religious but I would myself spiritual. I believe in something, I just haven't quite figured out what that something is yet, and I might never. I don't find if you're religious, so long as you are alright with me not being a very suitable candidate for conversion.
I am a really affectionate kind of person when I'm with someone I really like. I like showing them how I feel, and do it in a variety of ways. I like to spend a lot of time with the person I am interested in but recognize that we both have separate lives to live as well. I'd consider myself moderate maintenance, I suppose. I'm not clingy but I wouldn't do well being uninvolved.
The types of things I look for in a relationship are not overwhelming but important to me. I'm really big on honesty; I can't stress enough how annoying it is to be lied to as I'm sure everyone knows (maybe not everyone, but most). I'm not saying you should be blunt and evil, but being blunt isn't always bad.
What I look for physiy in a person isn't as cut and clean as many people's views tend to be. Yes, I am attracted to certain qualities physiy as I am mentally. I am really into healthy/fit women. What I find healthy and fit is the in-between between being stick thin and being overweight (the fact that I have to spell it out. . .). I'm not attracted to people with eating problems, whether it be over or under-consumption. I don't have a preference for hair type, height, or anything like that. If you're a 7' Amazonian woman who is down to Earth (or far away from Earth. Ahahaha..... bad pun is bad) and someone I like, I could be into you. The age range I am looking for is 18-30.
I find an ambition in a woman to be sexy. Even if the ambition is an incomplete one, wanting to go somewhere in life is what I want to do and it is only natural that is something I would look for in another person as well. I am from Columbus, so please live nearby if you respond; I'm not much for long distance relationships; they seem very impersonal.
Well, I just realized how much I wrote and now would probably be a good time to stop for now. If you're interested, contact me and tell me a little about you. It doesn't have to be as long as this "essay" but feel free to indulge what your time can afford. I'll reply and we can talk on an IM or text (or keep emailing).