looking for a needle in a haystack
I do not mean to offend any of you ladies, but I am looking for something unique, and it is my hope that spending a little bit of time telling about myself and what I am looking for might spare me the massive number of from ladies (I use the word loosely) that obviously are not what I am looking for. First of all, I am a widower, with 2 boys and beautiful adult ready sex single midget women 2 girls at home. My wife fought a good fight with and lost that fight about 6 months ago. She told me before she died that I needed to find a good woman after she died to help me raise my . It took me the last 6 months to consider this, and I believe that I am ready now. I am not divorced. I did not hate my wife, and I will never be "over her." I see no need to forget a good marriage of 20 years. At the same time, I believe that it is possible to love another woman, just as I loved her, for the rest of my life. I do not expect another lady to be my first wife. I am hoping that she will be the wonderful person that God created her to be, and that I can learn to love her qualities and talents and personality. In other words, a lady that I meet has no need to be jealous that my and I have fond memories of our wife and mother, but we'd like to make more memories with another wife and mother. God has taken my first wife home, and I am now waiting for him to show me my second wife, which I hope to finish my life with. I am a man, I seek a woman that is strong in her walk with . He has seen me through some very dark times, and I want him at the center of any relationship that I may have. I am marriage minded. Not to say that I am in a hurry to re- , but I am not entering the land of dating just to have a good time and find someone fun to pass time with. Although I hope that both of those things happen, I am seeking a wife and mother, and so if that is a place that you cannot see yourself, then there is probably no need to respond. This fine lady could come with or without additional , and the possibility of having more would be up for discussion. My are open to loving a "new mother" and are open to the possibility of new sibblings. She would love the , and desire to serve Him with me. If she liked the outdoors, that would be a plus. If not, her understanding of my love of the outdoors would be appreciated, as I like to get out for a day or two once in a while. We could buy a motorhome or fifth wheel if that would help! I do have to travel for business occasionally, and when possible (summer, long weekends) I like to take my whole family with me wherever I am going so that we can spend some evenings together and during the day, you could all go sightseeing. Okay, here it goes. I am NOT interested in sex before marriage. That is not because I would not find a lady attractive, and it is not because I am still "hung up" on my wife, it certainly is not because I do not have those desires. Quite simply, it is because God has forbidden sex outside of marriage, and I wish to honor God. I also wish for an eventual wife that wishes to honor God. I have been weak in this area prior to my marriage, and getting into the dating scene honestly brings up concerns about myself. So, I am particularly looking for a lady that is committed to honoring God and remaining sexually pure until marriage. The wedding night is fair game. I am also not into a lot of bar scenes, or party scenes. I may attend a social event here and there, especially if it were important to my mate, but my most valuable time is with my family, and I desire to be a strong spiritual head of my family. In order to do so, I must be there for those "teaching moments" that come up spontaneously. I desire to lead my family in a biblical manner. I desire to love my eventual wife as loved the , giving of myself for her. I desire to protect my wife and family. I desire to lead my family in study on a regular ( daily) basis. All of this being said, it does not matter what I want. I know that my future wife will be a , but aside from that, I am trusting God to bring me the right person. I expect that person will be unique and that I will be the person that God intends for someone else. I seek to chat with an interesting lady and see what God may have for us. I do not have a long list of qualities that she must possess, only that she loves the , and is the person that God created her to be, and that she desires to continue to walk with the in a biblical marriage someday. If you are still reading this and have not yet run the other way, that is a good sign, please drop me a line.